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My perspective is the opposite. If you constantly give and expect nothing in return, then, depending on the woman, you're liable to get nothing in return.
Basically, you have to create a sort of dependency on each other. Establish what you need from her, then create something that she needs and make her rely on you for it. It that need is emotional validation, prepare to be a constant supply for it because that's your purpose.
Ultimately, it makes the maintainence of a relationship a thing of conflict. You're always trying to keep the things you want that make the relationship worthwhile, but you have to give back. Either person would prefer to get what they want with minimal work, so you constantly have to adjust and battle.
Being reliable for emotional dependece is not good, either. If you go that route, then either person can fool around, invest more in friends, or whatever. You can find people who will listen to you anyway, especially if they want to jump in their pants.
Relationships often fail because people don't think of them in advance as the longest battle you will ever embark upon in your life, and they don't plan accordingly. |
